Your willingness to submit yourself to me, and my willingness to take your submission creates a psychological domination. You feed off the trust you place in me and the chance to give up control, I feed from the gift of yourself, the trust shown and your willingness to suffer for me.

The tangible demonstrations of domination and submission: kneeling, collaring, worship, these all reinforce the psychological domination you have accepted.

More physical aspects of domination, caning, spanking, flogging, CBT, these will give you the satisfaction of having had to face challenge and pain in order to 'pay' for the care you receive in return, for your chance to submit, to please me, your dominant. Such pain is always accompanied by an endorphin rush, the stuff of Prozac, the happy hormone. No wonder the process is so powerful!

Restraint and the relinquishment of control: bondage, shibari, cuffs, caging, blindfold, gagging, these all take away your responsibility for yourself and your behaviour. You're free to enjoy yourself, free of all the conditioning and taboo, free of the cares of the world. You will be told how to behave, you will be told what to do, at last, you have no need to fear, no need to worry about your desires, through restraint, you have freedom.

Puppy play and pony play: time out from being human.

Castration fantasy