When two people join in intimate relationship sexuality, personal confidence, sex drive and life's anxieties come together in a mix that can easily go wrong. A small incompatibility in one area can have huge implications if it stops the physical or emotional processes of love going smoothly.

Not being able to start relationships: too shy to start dating, not finding the right person, stuck the essential ‘key points’, problems dating with a new found sexuality or gender. Fear of the opposite gender, anguish after failed attempts or failed relationships. Trauma from the past, ghosts not yet laid. Fear of sex, too, it can be as simple and basic as that. And of course, the issues of lack of fidelity: you or your partners’. The lack of trust, the uncertainty of which way to go, the fear of opening up the issue. Overcoming abuse, yours or your partner's: the final insult of many rapes is the husband's subsequent rejection of his abused partner.

The rocky way back, or the uncomfortable lonely road ahead. Relationships are responsive to a fresh approach, but if you are drained of energy, of will to continue, you may need something, someone behind you, to push you through it, to make it a challenge and an adventure, to make the journey happen.

I will give you that push, that will, that energy. I will require you to act, I will tell you what to do, I will check that you do it. I will accept no excuses.

Making your wife your Domme, your Mistress or your authority female figure is the dream of many men with unrequited need of spanking, control or domination. It does happen, but not very often. If there's any chance of it, dumping a bdsm or spanking video in front of her and saying 'Can we live like this?' isn't the best approach. There are better ways...

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